Sleeping with your baby

Your picture-perfect view of new parenthood probably involves mom and dad staring lovingly over a crib as the baby sleeps. However, you, especially as a dad, may want to evaluate sleeping options and here's why:

1. The baby-in-crib alone is a relatively recent and distinctly American practice. If you think about it, before multi-room dwellings and back to caveman days, families used to sleep together for warmth and safety. Most of the rest of the world "co-sleeps" and finds it completely natural to do so.

2. Crib death, or SIDS, is a very American phenomenon, and perhaps can be related to the distance mommy is from a struggling baby.

3. And finally, and most importantly for dads: co-sleeping keeps mom close to baby for middle-of-the-night feedings. When we had our first and second babies, they slept with us for the first 6-7 months. In the middle of the night, baby was hungry and baby reached out and had a snack. My wife often said she barely remembered the feeding. Compare that with the story of some of my friends who kept the baby in a crib across the hall. Very often it was the DAD who got up in the middle of the night (wife had baby all day after all and was still recuperating from delivery) and it was DAD who spent 15 minutes at midnight and 4AM warming the bottle and another 15 minutes feeding and burping the baby. Now, I will grant you that middle of the night feedings have a certain romantic glow to them - there you are, the great dad, alone with your thoughts and your new son and daughter in the moonlight... However, after a week of completely interrupted sleep you may get a little tired of this routine, especially when you count the months before "sleeps through the night" is a reality.

Crib Safety for Babies

The safety of your baby, while left unattended in his crib, is always a concern. You can ensure your child's safety by taking safeguards to avoid accidents. These are among the things you can do:

• Ensure that the crib rails are high enough to prevent your baby from climbing over them. Do not leave pillows or mattresses that can make it easy for him to climb over.

• Ensure that you place your child's crib a safe distance from any windows. The curtain cords could pose a risk of strangling. If you do decide to have the crib within reach of the window, remove the cords, or use safety tassles or some other device so that your baby cannot reach for them.

• Always keep the side of the crib that drops pulled up and fastened to prevent your baby falling. This is, of course, especially crucial when the baby is alone and unattended.

• When your child starts using a bed, ensure that it has guardrails to prevent falls.

• Dress your baby in snugly fitting clothes. Clothes that fit loosely increase the risk of catching fire and burn more easily. Always buy flame resistant clothes. However, if you purchase clothes that are not flame resistant, (with yellow tag labels), ensure that they fit snugly.

• Install a smoke detector in your child's room near the crib. Remember to put in new batteries about once every year.

Your baby's crib needs to be a very safe place. Here are some tips to follow to make sure the crib will not harm your baby:

• If you buy a new mattress, be sure to remove and discard all plastic wrapping.

• The mattress should fit the crib snugly so your baby cannot slip between it and the side of the crib.

• Be sure the crib slats are no more than 2 3/8 inches apart so that your baby's head can't get caught between them.

• If you use a bumper pad, make sure that it goes all the way around the crib. Make sure the bumper pad is tied with at least six straps or ties. Ties should be no more than six inches long to prevent strangulation. Make sure your baby cannot get caught between the mattress and the bumper pad.

• Mobiles and other hanging toys should be high enough so that your baby cannot reach them.

• Do not put toys, stuffed animals, pillows or extra bedding in your baby's crib. These things can block your baby's breathing.

• Toys should not be tied to the crib because your baby can get caught in the cords.

• Cutouts in the headboard and footboard should be smaller than your baby's head so she doesn't get trapped in them.

• Place the crib away from windows. Cords attached to blinds or curtains can choke your baby if she gets caught in them.